Monday, April 16, 2018
Cholesterol and Heart Disease: How to Reduce Your Cholesterol Levels
1. Eat Fresh Berries Often
2. Eat Okra Often
3. Eat A Lot Of Unsaturated Fats
4. Eat A Lot Of Soluble Fiber
5. Eat Sesame Seeds Often
6. Exercise Often
7. If You Have Pre-diabetes, Do Intermittent Fasting For Six Weeks Or More
Conclusion
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Sunday, April 8, 2018
4 Simple Ways to Deal With Anger
Kofi Agyemang has problems with his temper: he
gets angry easily. Recently, his doctor advised him to learn to manage his
emotions when people annoy him. “I get angry often over things I do not need to
be so upset over, such as when my wife nags, and I throw tantrums, shout, and
hit my fist on tables when I am annoyed. I know it’s bad, but I find it
difficult to deal with it. At other times too, I just get angry when someone
has done nothing to hurt me. I went to see my doctor recently and I was shocked
when he told me that getting angry often can increase my risk for a heart
attack or a stroke. I have never thought of it that way: I have never imagined
that getting angry often could land me in such serious trouble. I want to know
some positive ways I can deal with my anger so that I will not get a heart
attack. And what are some of the ways I can deal with the unexplained anger I
suffer from sometimes,” he asks.
The advice of Kofi’s doctor was spot on: research
done by the Harvard School of Public Health suggests that people
who get angry often have an increased risk of experiencing a heart attack or stroke.
In this article, I want to show you how
to deal with anger in healthy ways so that it will not adversely
affect the health of your heart.
Now, this is what you can do.
1. Resolve To Live Peaceably With Others
The Bible says in Romans 12 v 18 that, “If
possible, so far as it depends upon you, live peaceably with all.” In
other words, you can choose to act in a humble and peaceful manner when someone
provokes you or irritates you.
So, remind yourself that maintaining peace
depends on you and choose to follow a path of peace instead of choosing to
adopt a confrontational attitude, and that can help you to calm down. You may
say something such as, “I want us to maintain the peace and so I will forget
about my ego and pride and resist the temptation to revenge,” to help you gain
control over your emotions.
Accept that there are things you did which
contributed to the disagreement and avoid putting all the blame on the other
person. When you do this and you judge yourself too instead of thinking the other
person is an enemy, it will help you to feel humble and that will make it
easier for you give the other person respect.
Keep company with men and women who show calmness
at all times, and who you know have dealt with very provoking situations in a
calm manner in the past. As you associate with them and interact with them, you
will learn from them: they will exert a positive influence on your attitude and
behavior and before long you will see that you will begin to respond calmly
when people offend you.
2. Remember People You Have Also Angered Before
Another way to deal with anger is to remind
yourself of the fact that you have also done things to hurt people, and that
those people controlled their negative emotion and chose to give you a second
chance.
When you consider the fact that your husband,
wife, brother, sister, classmate, co-worker, or neighbor also decided to
restrain themselves in the past so that you could maintain your relationship,
your conscience will tell you that you also need to do unto others what others
have done unto you, and that will help you to cool down.
So, when you see that you are getting angry, walk
away from the person who is annoying you, settle in a quiet place, close your
eyes, and recall 10 people you have annoyed in the past but who chose to
control their anger. Keep mulling over the scenes where these people restrained
themselves and replay it over and over again in your mind and it will make you
feel that you also owe it to others to show them the kind of magnanimity that
those who forgave you in the past showed to you, and that can make it easier
for you to calm down.
To make it easier for you to get into the spirit
to forgive, you may say words such as these to yourself, “I offended Kwabena
last week and he glossed over my mistake. I offended Kwasi last month and he
was gracious to me. I made Yaa angry and she was magnanimous towards me. I must
also control myself and show kindness to Afua who has hurt me.”
Additionally, remind yourself of the fact that
you will offend people in the future. It will make you reckon that since you
will need the people you will anger in the future to forgive you, you must also
forgive the person who has wronged you today so that others will be gracious to
you tomorrow. So, you may say something such as this to help motivate you to
resist the urge to prolong your anger, “How I treat Afua today can influence
how those I will offend in the future will treat me. No, I must cool down! I
must calm down so that I will also receive mercy when I offend people in the
future.”
3. Remind Yourself Of How Anger Can Cost People
Watch a video of someone who got angry and lost
something valuable as a result of his anger, and the negative effect that anger
had on his or her life. Alternatively, listen to stories of people who suffered
great losses as a result of their anger and the price they had to pay because
of that anger.
Then, write down 10 ways in which getting very
angry affected your life negatively in the past and exactly how you suffered as
a result of your inability to control or restrain your anger.
Doing this exercise will help to remind you that
you can suffer if you do not keep your anger in check and that can serve
as a motivation to help you cool down so that you will not experience loos
again: because you will not want to suffer another setback, you will find ways
to diffuse your anger.
4. Listen To Gospel Music
Sometimes when I get very angry, I listen to
gospel songs that talk about God’s mercy and grace towards me, and which speak
about the fact that although I commit serious sins against God, God forgives me
and gives me another chance to make amends. It helps to remind me of the fact
that I also need to be gracious to those who offend me, and that helps me to
restrain myself.
So, when you are angry, pick up your phone and
listen to cool, soul-touching gospel songs whose lyrics stress the importance
of forgiving others, or that have lyrics that stress the need to love others
because we are on Earth for a very short time and so we do not need to carry
grudges around because that will affect the quality of our lives.
This exercise will help you to renew your mind
and it will make it easier to think about reconciliation: you will feel more
comfortable to change your mindset from an adversarial one to a conciliatory
one. Consequently, you will be more willing to forgive, you will find it easier
to let go of the pain you feel, and that will help you to calm your spirit.
Conclusion
If you want to deal with anger so
that it will not hurt your relationship with your loved ones, resolve to live
peaceably with people who annoy you, remind yourself that others controlled
their anger when you annoyed them and you must also control yourself for peace
to prevail, recall how anger has made you lose something valuable before, and
listen to gospel music and you will be able to manage your emotions better.
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