Adwoa already has one child, a boy. She got pregnant and was looking forward eagerly to the birth of her second child, a girl. Even before the birth, she began to bond with her baby.

“I had always dreamed of having two children when I was in University. My dream family was to have a boy first, and then a girl. So I was so glad when Kofi came first. And now I was going to have a girl. I can‘t describe how I felt when I did the pregnancy test and it turned out positive. And every time she moved, I was filled with indescribable love for her. I looked to the future knowing I would soon be in a “heaven on earth.”

“I started bleeding in the night one day. I got worried and the following morning, I went to the hospital to see the specialist. He told me I had a problem with my uterus. I was terrified. And when the scan was done…” She starts sobbing at this point.

Have you also been through this experience?

Have you lost your baby recently?

Do you want to know how you can cope with a miscarriage?

Then read on because in this article I will give you tips that can help you to deal with this very trying situation, as well as the contacts of organizations that can give a helping hand in this trying moment.

Related: 5 Smart Ways to Cope With a Miscarriage

1. Do This Depression Fighting Exercise

You don’t feel like going out with your partner nowadays, right? Or, you eat about two tablespoons of your favorite rice and chicken stew and you don’t feel like eating anymore, right?

Or, you don’t feel like playing with your other kids, right? And when you go to bed at night, you toss and turn for hours without sleeping, right?

You are suffering from depression, which many studies have shown afflicts women who have a miscarriage.

According to A Harvard medical Expert, Exercise Can Help You

One way to fight it is to do exercises. According to Dr. Miller of the Harvard Medical School, exercise is as effective as antidepressants in treating depression.

How can exercise help one to battle depression?

How Exercise Helps To Fight Depression

It promotes neurogenesis, or it encourages the nerve cells in your brain to grow. When these cells grow, they make new connections and that can make you feel more positive and upbeat about life and the future.

How To Do “The Depression Fighting Exercise”

Here is an exercise you can do easily every day to help you feel great:

Put a mattress on the floor of your room.
Spread your legs about one step apart.
Stretch your arms out to the sides, ensuring that your palms touch the mattress.
Consciously relax your whole body.
Close your eyes and imagine your baby in Heaven enjoying without having to go through the stress, heartache, suffering, disappointment, and pain of this world.
Then raise your arms gently and slowly until they meet over your head.
Move your arms backwards as far as possible.
Raise your right leg slowly until your right knee is bent, with your right foot touching the mattress.
Raise your right leg into the air. Hold this position for 10 seconds.
Bring your right leg back to its starting position.
Bend your left knee slowly, and raise it in the air, whilst your right leg is in touch with the mattress. Hold this position for 10 seconds.
Go back to the starting position.
Rise slowly onto your feet.
Place your arms on your hips.
Breathe in deeply.
Bend your body to the right as far as it can go.
Breathe out.
Repeat the step above, this time moving your body to the left.
Then stretch back as far as practicable.
Then bring your legs together.
Hold your head.
Tense the muscles of the upper part of your body whilst breathing slowly. Hold the position for 10 seconds.
Relax.
Repeat 10 times.

2. Submit to Jehovah

You are a Christian, right? You are angry with Jehovah, right? You blame Him for taking your baby, right? And so you don’t want to hear His Name again, right?

That is your right, but It will only throw your spirit into turmoil. Consequently, you will lack peace and it will take you a long time to heal emotionally from the miscarriage.

A better option is to submit your will to God, who loves you very much, and who loves the baby you lost too!

A Story About A Mother Who Has Also Been Through It

Let me tell you a story to make things clearer.

Celia lost her child too. She sank under the blow. Christian friends prayed for her, but nothing seemed to reach and warm the numbness within.

After some days she lost consciousness. In a vision, she saw herself drifting down a deep, dark stream. Somehow, she knew she was headed for the sea of insanity.

Then, out of the terrible darkness and silence, a voice spoke out clear and strong, “I have always kept my word with you, haven’t I? Could I not take that which was my own?” That was God speaking to her to make the point to her that He also loved the baby that Celia lost.

Yes, you feel that the baby was yours. However, God, who created that baby, also cares about him/her. So, accept that He did the right thing for your baby.

As Job said in Job 22:21, “Submit to God, and you will have peace; thereby good will come to you.” In other words, if you agree with God and say, “LORD, your will be done. I accept that Your way is best. I am angry with you. I feel bitter towards You. Please help me to deal with the anger in my heart,” God will help you to experience peace. And that peace will drive away the emotional pain you are experiencing because you lost your baby.

3. Connect With Other Mothers Who Have Miscarried Before

In the first and second week after the miscarriage, your emotions were extremely unstable, right? And you locked yourself up in your room and ruminated about what could have caused the miscarriage, right?

And now you don’t feel like talking about the miscarriage with your partner, friends, and relatives, right? You feel extremely lonely because of the miscarriage, right? Because whenever you talk about it, you feel sad and depressed, right?

It’s affecting your relationship with your partner, but you are so angry with the world that you just wish everybody would go away, right?

You are not alone if you feel this way. In fact, according to Karen Rivers, who deals with women who have been through this experience, people who go through this experience don’t like to talk about it because they feel uncomfortable sharing the experience.

However, opening up can go a long way to help you.

Why?

How Connecting Can Help You

When you connect with mothers who have also lost their babies, and when you get to know that other women have survived your ordeal, you will see that there is hope for tomorrow.

As a result, you are less likely to feel emotionally isolated and depressed. Consequently, knowing you have cheerleaders and people who will hold your hand and be there every step of the way, you will find it easier to look forward to a bright future.

Helpful Support For You

In that regard, here are some support groups that will give you the opportunity to connect with mothers and health professionals who will help you:

If You Are In the US

Helping After Neonatal Death (HAND)

Phone: 1.888.908.HAND(4263)

Website: www.handonline.org/

Compassionate Friends

Phone: (877)-969-0010 or (630) 990-0010

Website: www.compassionatefriends.org/

March of Dimes

Phone: 888-MODIMES (888-663-4637)

Website: www.marchofdimes.org/

Share Pregnancy And Infant Loss Support

What they do: They give phone support, as well as facilitate face-to-face meetings for women who have experienced the loss of a baby.

Phone: 800-821-6819

Email: info@nationalshare.org

Website: www.nationalshare.org/

If You Are In The UK

Tommys

Phone: 0800 0147 800

Email: mailbox@tommys.org

Website: www.tommys.org/

SANDS UK

Phone: 0808 164 3332

Email: helpline@sands.org.uk

Website: www.sands.org.uk/

Miscarriage Association

Phone: 01924 200799 or 01924 200795

Email: info@miscarriageassociation.org.uk

Website: www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

If You Are In Canada

Sunnybrook Pregnancy and Infant Loss Network

Phone: 888-303-7245-(PAIL)

Email: pailnetwork@sunybrook.ca

Website: pailnetwork.sunnybrook.ca/

Cope Foundation

What They Do: They have a parent support group where you can share your grief and receive instruction as to how to cope with your miscarriage.

Phone: (516) 832 –COPE (2673)

Email: info@copefoundation.org

Website: www.copefoundation.org/

Hope Exchange

Email: info@HopeXchange.com

Website: www.hopexchange.com/

Todays Parent

Website link: www.todaysparent.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-support-groups-and-events/

If You Are In Australia

Bears of Hope Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support

They provide professional help.

Phone: 1300 11 BEAR or 1300 11 HOPE

Email: support@bearsofhiope.org.au

Website: www.bearsofhope.org.au/

SANDS Australia

Phone: 03 8595 2400 or 1300 072 637

Email: admin@sands.org.au

Pregnancy Loss Australia

Website: www.pregnancylossaustralia.org.au/

If You Are In New Zealand

The Grief Support and Education Charitable Trust

What They Do: They offer you counseling services, as well as a chance to connect with mothers who have also been through your experience, and resources to help you such as books.

Phone: 0800 543 354 or (64 9) 418 1457 or 1737 or (09) 522 29999

Email: office@griefcentre.org.nz

Website: www.griefcentre.org.nz/

Skylight Trust

What They Do: They lend coping with a loss books to you. Additionally, they give support packs.

Phone numbers: 0800 299 100 or +64 4 939 6767

Website: www.skylight.org.nz/

SANDS New Zealand

What They Do: They give you an opportunity to meet parents who have also suffered from a miscarriage so that you can talk about your experiences, as well as listen to how others have survived.

Phone number: 027 44 91 019

Email: info@sands.org.nz

Website: www.sands.org.nz/

Miscarriage Support

Website: www.miscarriagesupport.org.nz/

Points To Remember

To cope with a miscarriage:

do “the depression fighting exercise”;
submit to the LORD, if you are a Christian and you are angry with Him; and
avoid isolating yourself and reach out to others.

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